What do I do?
What do I do?
After 9 months of NC and 19 since the exN and I broke up, why do I still have obsessive thoughts about him? I mean when I have to occupy myself with something really interesting he's absent but when I want to rest myself after a long day or just relax, here he is again. And I can't resist reliving some moments in my mind only to end upset again and sometimes hurt.
How does this go away? I have to focus on me? I do! But these intrusive thoughts are a pain in the ass and the whole situation is absurd...
After thinking for a while about it I realized that I might insist doing that only to reassure myself that I was not crazy, unstable and a total mess like he said I was. Perhaps I have not yet restored faith in myself.
But I also realize that some ubnormal situations cannot be explained with rational thinking no matter how hard I try.
Someone told me that in order to forget I must forgive. I'm not there yet. I can probably forgive myself one day for getting into this mess but I can't forgive the cruelty with which he treated me.
I don' t know....maybe I ask too much for me right now or I'm thinking too much, which isn't good by the way.
I'm afraid I've lost my peace of mind forever...
Thank you all for the
belle de jour
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Perhaps you need "closure".....