What does the N do for a living?

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#1 May 29 - 9PM
adoette
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What does the N do for a living?

I'm curious what your xN does for a living.

My xN is a lawyer working for the underdog. What's that? Why would someone w/o empathy care about the down and out? He coached basketball with inner-city youth and let people live with him that didn't have a place to go. He's Mr. Saving-the-World....why would an N do that?

But I digress...back to the original question: What does your xN do for a living?

Jun 19 - 12AM
prettypeeved
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Based on his actions, his job

Based on his actions, his job description seems to include selecting couples to split up and then attempting to destroy their relationship through lies and manipulation so he can pick through the wreckage like a vulture. But in the real world, he's an accountant. A dull, boring, TEDIOUS accountant with no imagination whatsoever.
Jun 18 - 8PM
coffeeaddict66
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Ready for this one??

Mine is a milkman...seriously .
Jun 18 - 5PM
badjer
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P.S. He's always running and

P.S. He's always running and doing things for charity. Most people think he has a heart of gold. Wish they'd been around to see some of the stuff he spouted at me behind closed doors. Wonder if he would say to one of his mates "you're talking utter shit" because he happened to disagree with his opinion. Hmmmmm….I think not. Fucking nasty bully.
Jun 18 - 5PM
badjer
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My ex is a lawyer. A very

My ex is a lawyer. A very good one too. Everybody who knows him thinks he is just the quietest, most unassuming bloke on the planet. Only those closest to him (not even his mates) know how foul his temper is or how spiteful he can be. A real Jekyll & Hyde if ever there was one.
Jun 18 - 4PM
fooled no longer
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MINES a CON ARTIST!!!

MINES a CON ARTIST!!! masquerading as a mechanical engineer Comes from a family of bent Cops
Jun 18 - 3PM
Patricia
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TEACHES AT A PRISON

My soon to be exnh teaches at a mens prison- perfect job for a narc!. He is around men all day with the same low levels of ethics and morals as him- so it just reaffirms to him that there is nothing wrong with him. He is also able to feel superior- these men have been caught for their bad behavior- he hasnt!
Jun 2 - 2AM
holatristeza
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Managing director

My xN is working as a managing director and partner in the biggest consulting firm in my country. He has been working there for 16 years, but have only been managing director for one year. The xN got a coach a couple of months ago, because his boss didnt think he worked enough (too time consuming having two girlfriends).
Jun 1 - 10PM
Steph
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Mine was a lawyer too

Mine was a lawyer too lol Nothing against lawyers in general, but HIS days were filled with soooooo much stress. It's truley difficult sitting in an office, drinking over lunch hour, and bossing around "incompetent" female secretaries. The first "N" didn't finish high school. Although, from what he told me, his job of stocking grocery items at the local grocery store, was pretty "top notch".
Jun 1 - 9PM
Susan32
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Too many cooks ruining the soup

My former Narc boss supervised a kitchen in a nursing home. He's currently part-time somewhere else... he tried to hoover me... but that place was supposed to open back in '08. Still hasn't. I wasn't going to wait around for it to open. Besides, I did NOT want to work with him again... even if he wanted me back. He used his older boyfriend for money. The morbidly obese Narc coworker was also a nursing home cook. He was PROUD of his obesity, parading his paunch around as Santa Claus for the elderly. He didn't mind dropping his pants in the kitchen, hitting on female nurses (despite being married), going into gruesome detail about his sex life, claiming he had lost weight (NOT!!!) He kissed butt with the management, so he stayed... despite the fact he allowed teenagers to drink on the nursing home grounds, and bragged about a teenaged girl baring her breasts for him. He wanted the Nice Guy image, he'd endlessly moralize to me about how great he was&how awful I am. He took great umbrage to being called "malaking baboy" (it's Filipino for "fat pig")... but he constantly called his wife a b*tch. Once, when I worked a double shift, he REFUSED to help me (I was exhausted)... and he stood there, staring, huffing, gasping. Didn't lift a finger. He loved stuffing his face&his sob story that if he got fired, his wife would divorce him convinced my Narc boss. The former Narc coworker at my current place was also a nursing home cook. He'd come to work drunk... and his girlfriend, who made more $$$ than him (she was in computers) would often have injuries. He'd talk about her having a broken wrist, or a broken ankle. That struck me as odd... NOT in a good way.
Jun 1 - 7PM
helldweller
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what he does for a living

He is a judge in Chicago and the foster father of a six year old Eskimo boy. In his free time he screws over women and children, drinks and smokes AND volunteers at a home for disabled adults. He also volunteers coaching for a disadvantaged youth sports program. He said to me once about his life: "I'm just giving back, honey. I could make millions a year and be on my yacht every weekend or at my house in Italy, but I'm just giving back. That's how my parents raised us." This is a direct quote, which was delivered to me on my birthday, at dinner, a few hours before I stole his phone and found that he had five other girlfriends, all of whom his foster child called "Mama"--and that he had been taking checks from one of them because he claimed he was broke and would have to send his foster child back to the group home because he couldn't support him. He makes a hundred and forty thousand dollars a year, had wealthy parents who passed away, and has never had a single dependent in the thirty years he's been working. It's all for show.
Jun 1 - 5PM
Monica
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Mine is a.....

....LOBBYIST! With political aspirations of his own. Mark my words...I will NEVER allow someone like him to be elected to public office. Monica Lewinsky was child's play compared to what I have on this narc..... And he knows it. Besides, his ex-wife ruined his reputation in an entire town. Don't think he will ever make it in politics.
Jun 1 - 6PM (Reply to #58)
heritage
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Dentist

He is a dentist. 5'7'' and into tall blondes. I am 5'4" blonde and he is backj with old gf who is 5'7" blonde. She has to wear flats or is taller than him and he likes heels. When I saw him walking with her he looked like a tree stump. BTW he has no compassion as a dentist. I asked him if he feels anything when he hits a nerve when he gives an injection and he said not a thing. And when pts called hium on the weekend with problems and I was with him he was nice on the phone and when he hung up he knocked the pt for hours for disturbing him.
Jun 1 - 4PM
snarky174
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He's a Salesman!

Yep Sales now AVID church goer - CCD teacher,baseball coach, I however found the BEST shirt to wear around him... cafe press - I AM NOT.... check it out - the shirt is everything we went through and then some with these nuts....
Jun 1 - 2PM
Happy1
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Oh! Mine is also a CubMaster

Oh! Mine is also a CubMaster and PTO President at his son's gradeschool. He's such a wonderful narc. Screws everyone and everything he touches.
Jun 1 - 6PM (Reply to #55)
Hunter
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Happy

Oh the model citizen,You left off stalker and jackass.
Jun 1 - 1PM
ValiditySeeker
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Emergency room doc

Off to save your life! What a good guy! And he was constantly making degrading comments to me about others' jobs. He respected teaching (his mom's profession, of course) as a "noble profession" and saving people's lives as a doctor. Not general medicine or plastic surgery, too boring and not hero-making enough for him. He once made fun of my doctor because the medical school she went to wasn't a top- ranked one. He was all about prestige. He made fun of my eye doctor stating that he wasn't a "real doctor." He simply didn't value any profession that wouldn't make him a hero and it was imperative that top- notch schools be involved. Nothing less for my narc boy will do! So plastic. He didn't give a crap about serving his fellow man. He not once mentioned helping people. It was all done because of how it reflected on him. He volunteered as a Big Brother for the same reason yet trash talked his eight year-old Little Brother!!!! He called him a "nerd!". The whole point of mentorship was lost on him. He was more interested in what others could do for him. Shocking how little he cared for others .
Jun 1 - 1PM
dudette
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Mine works for a charity

that does disability awareness in schools plenty of endless supply for the majority of his staff / volunteers are lonely gullible disabled women who adore him and cover his shit up, and the majority of his targets are school teachers.... like current GF.... Quite the rooster in the chicken run or should I say peacock? or the silver fox as he likes to call himself... a fox in a chicken run, I tell you it's priceless.... Before that he failed at managing a theatre company Before that he failed at managing artists in the music industry whilst living at the expense of his successful A and R agent wife who he cheated on countless times... Before that he failed at being a musician himself whilst living at the expense of his long-term theatre designer girlfriend who he cheated on countless times.... I see a pattern forming I was slightly different because I am not a teacher but work for a funding agency but in education... and I would not handover my money whilst accepteing to be cheated on countless times.... Tough gig....someone has to do it....
Jun 1 - 10AM
strongerthanever
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Ex Special Ed teacher for

Ex Special Ed teacher for Elementary schools. NOt sure what he is doing now. He quit in 2010 right when he got married...to a teacher where most of his supply has been. When we were together, he did try to quit but had to go back due to his son's mother getting more child support and I was not in any position to pay the 600 monthly bill on that. This is his timeline from college yrs: 5-6 yrs in college constantly changing his major and living off of student loans and other girls 2 yrs as a Safety person. Quit and then drove a truck for a while while figuring out what to do in life. When his current long term gf got her teaching degree, he went back for 1.5 yrs in college. again, living off of student loans, family and other women. 10 yrs as a Special Ed Teacher 4 months in school to learn a trade, welding, pipe-fitting. he did say he wanted to work with no people and no kids. went back to teaching. quit and most likely working as a electrician journeyman or bus driver. He thought about law enforcement but admitted his anger issues would be a problem.
Jun 1 - 10AM
victimnomore
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This is too funny!

ex-con, drug and alcohol, counselor, mental illness drug addicted counselor! He should be a patient! LOL!

victimnomore

Jun 1 - 9AM
Happy1
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You mean besides being a jerk

You mean besides being a jerk for a living? He has his PHD and is a Scientist. He thinks he is God though so I'm not sure if that counts too.
Jun 1 - 9AM (Reply to #49)
passionatebutterfly
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LMAO!!

LMAO!!
May 31 - 8PM
Hope
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Fire Chief

Mine is a Fire Chief, his entire staff hates him, with the exception of a couple guys that he promoted and are his right hands, they also have been on the department with him for 30 years. He is also a pilot and has his own small plane, and built a small subdivision.
May 31 - 7PM
girlsinger
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exNarc is

Dr Narc is an assistant Prof of Orthopeadic surgury specializing in tumors and bone cancer at a major University hospital so he is well able to literally dismantle people and then put them back together exactly as he wishes he leads surgical teams this is a guy that was stiching up folks in 9/11 he comes across very cool,& collected yet last year when we had a small earthquake we happened to be on the phone he screemed.."what do I do! (like a 6 year old) "my chandelier is shaking" "what should I get at the store?" "oh no"! still makes me laugh I once asked him if doing amputations was difficult on him he replied: "no, actually those are the easiset to do" he gets an enormous amount of primary N/S at work I mean they bow all day as he passes by and you would think that would be enough N/S but its wasn't he needed to call and text me after every procedure and as soon as he got out at the day's end he sleeps 3 hours a night, and needs wine to do even that he is always drinking is constanly checking on his stock portfolio on his Iphone even in the middle of the night a text book N, drives the cliche porsche with a comic book in the back window..LOL he has to deliver the news on a daily basis to patients that they have months maybe weeks to live and shared with me that the nurses still find his level of "detachment" simply astounding he hated "clinic day" or post surgry appointments because folks were sitting up and could talk..he detested it he prefers people out cold on the OR & under his control he wears a 3 piece suit to work every single day, no white Dr. Coat he's above all of that did you see Alec Baldwin in 'Malice"? then you saw him
Jun 18 - 4PM (Reply to #46)
fooled no longer
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Girlsinger this is just

Girlsinger this is just hilarious and you write so well, I think im gonna use him as a character in one of my books.
May 31 - 5PM
mystwoman
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My first xnh was trying to be

My first xnh was trying to be a "professional student" until 6 months before I left him. I pretty much had to bully him into getting the last few credits for a business administration degree instead of taking racquetball classes and bowling like he wanted. After almost 6 years of his flunking out of classes, and getting fired on the rare occasions that he would actually try to work, he FINALLY graduated to became a proud junior manager at...K-Mart. My second xnh was an electronics technician for the military for about 11 years until he decided his next career goal was to quit the military and become a "cable guy". Literally. He installed cable television. When he decided this was not getting him enough money to support the grandiose lifestyle in which he felt entitled, he found a job in the same town as myself working (again) as an electronics technician. He's now managed to butt-kiss his way up to an engineer position. Xnh is a huge self-promoter. However, he still is performing as a technician, and he has no degree. I doubt he'll be able to land another engineering position outside of this company. He has some talent as "fix-it troubleshooting guy". However, he's not an engineer.

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May 31 - 5PM
2heal
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UGH !!.....A Personal Trainer

He is a personal trainer.....perfect for his agenda... 95% woman who need help with weight loss and guess who comes to the rescue and saves them. He gives them the talk, the charm, the plan...delivers a beautiful body for a f@#kin huge price. He takes their hearts,souls and everything they love not to mention money, cars, homes and then he leaves them for new supply (often who are new clients) . He loves the married ones as they are forced to be silent about their affair. The married ones will not concede to the other women in the gym about the affair which leaves the door wide open for him to prey, and F@#K his other clients... all at the same time.No one knows about the other.....He still sees the ones that have left the gym... he is so smooth no one knows about the other....SICK !!!! I still have friends that go to him and it is heartbreaking that I cannot help them to escape. Hugs everyone !!! speedy recover for us all !!!!!
May 31 - 1PM
shyloh
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Mine is/was a pilot!

Mine is/was a pilot!
Jun 1 - 5AM (Reply to #41)
passionatebutterfly
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pilot

Mine too.......oh isn't he just so wonderful, lol. When 9/11 happened, my 1st thought /concern was my children. They were at school and I felt panicked that more attacks were coming. He calls me that day asking if I thought of him???? Um, no I thought of my family. Plus his airline wasn't involved, so no. Unbelievable.
Jun 1 - 7PM (Reply to #42)
helldweller
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passionatebutterfly

After 9/11 my ex husband, also a firefighter, (not the narc but pretty impressive tendencies) went to New York to attend funerals. I found out later (after he went to jail for arson) that he screwed someone after a party while he was there. Only a narc could do this stuff.
May 31 - 12PM
peace11
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lmao A

lmao A DJ/Promoter/Asshole How could i NOT see the Red Flags on this one!