When they 'come back' looking for support

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#1 Sep 2 - 9AM
Amazed
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When they 'come back' looking for support

I recently was contacted by one of my ex N (I also had a 'relationship' with exPschopathN that was even worse)

He had a death in the family, and contacted me for 'support' and that it could be 'theraputic' for him and I to get together.

So here I go, thinking innocently enough that it would be 'okay' to get together, to hear of his distress, to help him put things in perspective, and to be a good friend.

Wrong. When I go there, the insults, criticism, all started all over again. All the red flags...It has been years since we have gotten together...

Now he is saying he wants to 'have a date' and do it right..

I felt so drained, depressed, like he literally sucked the life and inspiration out of me.

They never do change. It is very sad and dangerous to revisit these people, no matter what their plea is.

I wanted to be a good friend, it seems somehow wrong not to be there for them in this sort of time, loss of a family member.

However they don't seem to relate eye to eye like most normal people, they just don't, and they do not mature or grow up. It is very sad.

Now I feel like I have lost all my energy, it is like I feel paralyzed.

I am usually full of energy and happy, and now I can barely move, it is like I lost all my personal power or something.

Have any of you encountered this?

What do you do to get your life back....I really feel so down and depressed, and like no motivation just all of a sudden, like a major chemical change took place in my body or something! Coffee doesn't help!

Thank you for your help, and support, I appreciate it!!

Sep 5 - 9PM
Amazed
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AND WHAT THEY SAY, NOT WHAT IS MEANT!!

Sep 6 - 11PM (Reply to #26)
fefe65
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Thank you guys for the kind

Sep 6 - 6AM (Reply to #25)
ItsFinallytime
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Curious as to why you haven't

Sep 5 - 6PM
fefe65
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Two years ago my sister

Sep 5 - 9PM (Reply to #23)
Amazed
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Unbelievable fefe65...these were they guys we loved???

Sep 5 - 7PM (Reply to #22)
what.a.mess
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I am so sorry to hear this!

Sep 5 - 7PM (Reply to #21)
SunshineandLight
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Oh my goodness FeFe, I am

Sep 3 - 9PM
SunshineandLight
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It is a waste of time trying

Sep 4 - 10PM (Reply to #17)
Amazed
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SunshineandLight,,are you kidding, exN was that insensitive!!

Sep 5 - 7AM (Reply to #19)
SunshineandLight
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Yes, Amazed, I'm ashamed to

Sep 5 - 4AM (Reply to #18)
talktothehand
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Amazed

Sep 2 - 9PM
shock and awe.some
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Something similar happened to

Sep 3 - 8AM (Reply to #13)
Amazed
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Shock and awe.some, wow, you were just being a good friend!!

Sep 3 - 8PM (Reply to #15)
shock and awe.some
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I just wanted to add a

Sep 3 - 10AM (Reply to #14)
ItsFinallytime
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Hi Amazed. "I cannot believe

Sep 2 - 7PM
Quixotic
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Not "Support" Only SUPPLY!

Sep 3 - 8AM (Reply to #11)
Amazed
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Quixotic, you are brilliant!! Thank you for perspective

Sep 2 - 2PM
NoNarcingZone
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It's mind over matter, my dear Amazed!

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Sep 2 - 3PM (Reply to #9)
Amazed
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NoNarcingZone--you are right on my friend!!

Sep 2 - 11AM
spective
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I know how you feel..

Sep 2 - 3PM (Reply to #7)
Amazed
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Spective, I share the same shock as you about the N..

Sep 2 - 11AM
talktothehand
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Amazed

Sep 2 - 3PM (Reply to #4)
Amazed
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Talktothehand, yes, you called it right.

Sep 3 - 12PM (Reply to #5)
talktothehand
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Refuse to be used

Sep 2 - 2PM (Reply to #2)
Goldie
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Exactly

Sep 4 - 10PM (Reply to #3)
Amazed
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Thank you for your support Goldie!