This will happen if I break NC....: PLEASE ADD TO THIS LIST. It is for all of us
This will happen if I break NC....: PLEASE ADD TO THIS LIST. It is for all of us
5 months today....
I too have been fighting off the STRONG urge to write, call or contact him and tell him what is on my mind, and some days I just want to call him to talk and make it all right again. Of course this is IMPOSSIBLE.... It is an addiction I live with everyday so I keep reminding myself what will happen if I do. We all struggle with this. Please add to my list so we can remind ourselves everyday why we must keep NC... Thanks to all of you who continue to help and be my inspiration.
1. He will not hear a word I say.
2. He will be thrilled to hear my emotion, whether it be good or bad, and know that he "got to me".. He will have WON.
3. My emotion will enable him and make him strong. He will be happy and filled with his fresh supply from me and then go and make love to his girlfriend, knowing he will always be able to control me.
4. I will feel broken and lost.
5. I will lose everything gained by all of these months of NC
6. Nothing will change. He will not change. Telling him how I feel will do nothing.
7. Contacting him will make me feel sick inside, like my guts are being torn up and my skin is crawling.
8. I will lose all the control I have gained these past few months because the only control I can have over this relationship is when I am no longer in it.
9. I will hate myself for needing him and feel remorse for my actions.
10.Contacting him will not provide closure, I will go backwards in my healing.
good list
baddream
hey
A must read for NC
James good NC article
LONESOME LOSER and more
correction
Cynthia, James----
baddream
that's...
The List
baddream
The sad news is I will never
http://knittingattheguillotine.blogspot.com/
http://stoptherollercoaster.blogspot.com/
http://byebyejekyllandhyde.blogspot.com/
http://libertyfromlies.blogspot.com/
That must be the hardest part!!!
Points
Thanks James.
baddream
Question for James--
Heat
Thanks and more thanks James.
It does get easier
Marie
Lemon Law--Marie
James - that's a great point
It does feel harsh sometimes but necessary
http://knittingattheguillotine.blogspot.com/
http://stoptherollercoaster.blogspot.com/
http://byebyejekyllandhyde.blogspot.com/
http://libertyfromlies.blogspot.com/
#11
your ten points really do
Baddream
I know this feeling well Marie.
precisely