Working with my ex-narc is becoming hell

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#1 Aug 13 - 4PM
herlatestvictim
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Working with my ex-narc is becoming hell

My ex-narc and I have pretended to be friends for years now, it's how I have survived working along side the narc after finding out (several years ago now) that the narc was living with a girlfriend, who was passed off as a roommate to myself and the many victims before and after me. We are lesbians.

I decided to maintain a "friendship" because we work in a small office together, everyone knows us as close friends and I was too humiliated to end everything, to have everyone know what a fool I was. We spend time together every single day including carpooling. I know, I'm an idiot! It was what I thought I had to do to survive at work, even though most days it killed me.

Now, for what may be the final discard! This a$$hole decided that we should stop being friends so that she is not viewed as having special privelages (I fall higher on the work food chain). Overnight, I was cut off, except for the carpooling (in which I drive and never get reimbursed for gas). I suspect that this also has to do with her live in girlfriend (same one from the beginning) who is very jealous and hates me.

I basically don't exist now except for very polite, formal talk in the car and at work. AND she is going out of her way to be super friendly to everyone else. Anything that has anything to do with me, on her person or work area is gone.

I already said that I don't know if I will continue carpooling because this change is difficult for me. Of course, her response, "what's difficult about it? I thought we were friends?" UGH!!

I am so hurt and humiliated... I should've ended all contact years ago, when I first found out about the "roommate." The results are the same. I am being ostracized, humiliated, and made to feel like less than a human being.

I was there for her, in friendship, through a lot over the last few years. She has taken and taken... and is now taking her final bow.

Give me strength.

Aug 13 - 9PM
Rising Dawn
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Why are you giving her power?

Aug 15 - 1PM (Reply to #2)
herlatestvictim
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Thank you Rising Dawn!