You just can't avoid the narcs of the world

This holiday season, I have been looking forward to for some time. Going into it with a positive attitude, looking forward to a beautiful day with family and friends. Last year was a blur.........I have no recollection of what I did this time last year.

Although healed, from the narcissist romantic relationships in my life, I must admit, I am surrounded by narcs in my life, in every aspect. And have been surrounded by them this holiday weekend even more so. But I am armed, I can detect them and immediately disengage. And that is a beautiful thing.

We must always remember, no matter where we go, or what we do, they are among us. It's how we handle them after we have armed ourselves with the knowledge we have, that makes all the difference in the world.

I just spent the morning with my best friend, her narc husband and family for brunch. Having a wonderful time. I was telling a story to their neighbor about a concert I attended two years ago, and this mishap in the parking lot afterwards, it's a funny story, and my friends narc husband knew the story well. Just when I was getting to the funny part, he jumps up, screams the ending, everyone turned to look at him, all eyes were on him, exactly what he wanted...............I said to him, "Pat, you want to take it from here?" "be my guest and finish the story, since it's your story, not mine" he was steamed, sat in the corner of the room at a table alone and would not speak to any of his guests. Some of the guests noticed he wasn't part of the party any more and commented. I decided to leave, it was time any way, since I have to be at my sisters by 5 tonight, I told them I would give it until I reached the Cumberland Farms before he was back at the party full throttle. As true as I sit here writing this post, I was texted a block from that destination to be told he had joined the party once again. By the way, when I said goodbye and thanked him for the brunch, he never looked up at me, just looked away and said "welcome". My response to the text, "did I call that or what? Text book and predictable. Hark, hark, I see a narc".

Moral of the story.........they are every where, just be aware of them, and handle them as they need to be. No harm, no foul for me this year. He would have buried me before. Now though, he nor no one else can. It's all good! And this is one of many narc encounter stories I am sure.

Happy holidays everyone! Stay strong and be true to yourself!