You will get over this! :)

Girls and Guys

My Nh left me in January after 11 years together and just 6 weeks into our marriage....he left me for one of my best friends

I am finally so so so happy to report that it is true.....time along with this board has helped me heal what i thought was forever a broken heart.

My N and OW used to own every minute of every day inside my mind and i honestly thought i would go crazy somedays playing over and over in my head the situation and the hurt i experienced and felt.

I can remember sobbing myself to sleep and wondering how i had reached this point in my life. I couldn't imagine ever smiling let alone laughing or living life to the full again.

I used to read posts fanatically that had any similarities to my N and try to educate myself on this new found disorder.

Family and friends despaired as i talked constantly of what had happened and obsessed over their relationship and happiness and my own depression. I'd shut myself away and research anything on Ns whilst listening to 'our' music and look at photos. I'd fish for latest updates and look on mutual friends FBs even though when i did get updated it'd feel like a stab in my chest.

I DON@T KNOW HOW OR WHEN THIS CHANGED BUT

As the months passed i started to believe what i read here and also recognise that i had been a victim of a very sick young man. I saw and felt glimmers of the 'old' me coming back, people would comment how they had noticed a smile or a look which reminded them of the strong,independent,fun,loving person i ised to be

As they commented, i began to notice it too. I couldn't believe that i had lost me in the first place and let this prick completely engulf everything i stood for and believed in and was!!

Its so true that you have to look after you!! I have not entered into another relationship, i still have alot of work to do on me and i have started dating but ever so carefully. I think i may have attracted another N but the difference this time is that i see it already for what it is and have the tools and knowledge and STRENGTH to handle it!

I hope anyone reading this having those awful first few months/weeks of NC can believe that they will get better and that they will heal. In your own situation you always think your pain is greater than anyone else has ever experienced and that your circumstances are far more hurtful.

Take comfort in the fact that this too shall pass and one day you will be at this stage and smiling and accepting.

I still have moments when if i saw the pair of scumbags i'd knock them the **** out but then iu remember he's always gonna be messed up and she's gonna get one helluva surprise!!

Hugs xxxxxx