Anybody find themselves a little different - tougher and meaner maybe?
Anybody find themselves a little different - tougher and meaner maybe?
After the narc experience does anyone find themselves a little different? Perhaps not as soft/ kind as they once were? I think I might be a little harder, tougher and generally as not filled with love as I was. I come from a healthcare background but this time last year I was working for a major charity for very little money - even my husband called me a sucker as a joke! But I didn't mind the pay as I worked for something I believed in. I also generally smiled at people, was open and friendly and considered myself compassionate. Generally a positive, chilled, easy going person who cared about people. I have since given up the job as I was paying to go to work in the school holidays (due to childcare costs!) - I also felt like they took advantage abit plus I had to deal with quite alot of stress including someone stealing and wasn't really supported. I now volunteer when I want to which suits much better. However a year later after the N experience ( my 2nd N experience in life) I find myself not liking people as much. I have no tolerance for whingers, negative people and find they now give me a real headache. I am also generally right off men, I won't hold open doors for them, I give them bitchy looks of disgust and even the other day had a semi road rage incident with one. He was driving the wrong way and whereas before I would've ceded and let him go even though he was wrong - this time I drove ahead and almost blocked him, shouted and swore at him! I have taken up boxercise and love it so much and am even thinking about taking up some martial art or boxing itself as I want to toughen myself up - be able to fight if I need to. I am kind of missing the old kind gentle me. However I think I have been walked upon too much yet at the same time I also want to really toughen up and become abit mean! Not to hurt anyone - but to stand my ground and not take any BS. I feel before like I was a dumping ground for peoples problems or people using me and I have had to be the strong one to deal with issues (at work). I saw the best in people but now I am seeing the worse and more suspicious. I am not sure if this is a good thing or not. Or is this going through the anger phase?
Yes, absolutely
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JRB
made me a fighter
Tougher
Madea
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Yes JRB
I am not meaner, but
Yes I feel tougher. Wiser.
Me....a little, yes. The ex-wife...yes who can fault her?
I agree about the ex wife. My
Boundaries
JRB123
I am a cold hearted
SARA! ME TOO
TLSM
I think I may have gotten a
The good is I've noticed I've
I think I just don't feel as
tougher but not meaner
different but not meaner
Completely agree with your
Thanks!
my spirit.
Oh boy....I can sure
me too
Hope it comes back
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As far as a new relationship