Narcs & Dating (specifically money and PDA)
Narcs & Dating (specifically money and PDA)
I really like posing questions on this forum because I find that a lot of us have similar experiences. It helps me to put the whole situation into a more well-rounded perspective as well as "warning signs" to look out for in the future.
What was your narc like out on dates - if he even bothered to go through the trouble of wining and dining you? Did he go all out, was he a cheapskate even though he could afford it, or was there nothing weird about him in this respect? Im specifically curious about the types of places he took you, how frequently, how money was handled, or if there were any conflicts with any of the above. Also, how was he with PDA (public displays of affection)?
The N i dealt with wasn't swimming in money, as he was a grad student living on loans, but he still had enough to entertain himself. Dates were usually things he was interested in- mostly live music. He would scour the internet to find shows that were free or $10. I admit some of the artists were good but most of the time he only chose it because it was cheap or free. If it was cheap and his idea, he didn't have a problem paying.
He kept a tally of who chose what- "well, I went to this thing for you, so...". We never had any big money conflicts because I just went along with whatever he wanted to do, which cost next to nothing. If there was something pricey I wanted to do, I just did it on my own time because I knew deep down it would cause problems.
He has never been out of the country- I suggested we save up money for a trip to Europe after he gets his Masters. He made a HUGE stink about it, saying it's entitled of me to think that Europe is feasible. Even when I said we would have YEARS to save up, he wouldn't hear it. Instead, he came up with the idea of a roadtrip instead. Instead of some place interesting and new, he decided to rent the crappiest RV and drive around the Nevada desert, up to Canada, and down through CA to Mexico. Nevermind that he already LIVED in that general area at the time! We stayed in the absolute dirt cheap motels and ate at dirty diners and hung out with old drunk men at bars. It was almost as if he intentionally picked something completely opposite of what I suggested just to spite me.
Now with his OW, who is young, rich, and lives off daddy's money, she pays for their weekend getaways and dinners. I guess as long as he's not footing the bill, he'll expect ultimate class and luxury.
Regarding PDA- not really. He'd sling his arm around me in pictures but that was about it.
dates and money
Cash
Money
Money
Yucky cheap
Yuck cheap
on dates
Extremely ceap
Cheap
Money
It was ALL ABOUT THE MONEY!!!
Crap! Money
OMG!!!!! "Because
Holy crap
This is exactly what I was
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Narcs n money
My N was a leech
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Mine had money but was cheap.
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