Narcissists and Sex
Narcissists and Sex
Hi everyone! Im new to this site and looking for some input about some personal issues I had with my ex who Im pretty sure is a narcissist. The is the jist of our sexual issues:
At first sex was normal although I could tell he had been having one night stands/meaningless sex forever because he was very distant. It got better over time though after we got closer, actually it was amazing. We then became more open and started to discuss fantasies and have dirty talk. I basically indulged him in some really dirty fantasies because it made me feel close to him, and I did enjoy it. But then it started to become what he wanted 90% of the time. Using the f word and fantasizing about me acting like a pornstar, having threesomes with 2 guys, having sex infront of a group of people. He once even called me a "slut" in bed which I immediately vetoed. I felt like he was trying to recreate porn with me (I know he has a porn problem), and had several talks with him about how I wanted "nice" sex most of the time and dont want to be f'd everytime I sleep with my boyfriend. He would always agree and be more loving in the bedroom the next couple times but it would always go back to this.
Also, towards the end of our relationship he yelled at me on two occasions while drunk because I either couldnt have sex because it hurt or because I wasnt in the mood. The next day he claimed on both occasions to not remember.
Once during sex I also saw him in the mirror looking basically into space as if he was concentrating on something else. I felt like I wasnt enough for him and he had to picture one of these "dirty" situations. Even though I know Im sexually attractive (not to be cocky), and in good shape, and he always told me I was the hottest girl he'd even been with (true as far as I know :)) and that I turned him on more than anyone.
What is with this behaviour??? I think he honestly lacks respect for women and that porn has seriously altered what turns him on.
Anyone else had this problem with a narcissist? God it really hurts your self esteem. I hope I never have to deal with a guy like that again.
Anyways I would love love love some feedback as this is not stuff I really feel comfortable talking to many of my friends about :/
Thanks! xo
my exnarc
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