Is my best friend one also?
Is my best friend one also?
Hello all,
I have not been on in awhile but i hope everyone is doing well. I divorced my N husband in April and I am doing ok. Adjusting to life on my own again and learning to being single again, i have started seeing someone and he is the most unselfish person i know, so i am hopeful.
My issue is my friend of over 15 years. She has gone thru a lot herself over the last year, she lost her mom in December. After not have not lived in the same city for years, we are finally in the same place. She is working at a new job that i helped her get. The plan all along was to have her live with me, to help both of us financially. So i made adjustments to my home and invited her and her two small dogs to live with me. I live about an hour outside the city where we both work, and my normal commute to work work is about an hour, a fact she knew. So after 3 weeks she tells me at dinner that she is moving out, and had found a place closer to work, and signed a lease 2 days earlier. So, she left, but because the cost to live in the city is so high, her place is tiny and she asked me to keep her stuff for her in my home. And because i have a problem with confrontation i agreed. Since then things have been strained in our friendship. She house sat for me once, and invited a man over she had known 2 weeks to stay, without telling me. This is just i think a pattern of selfishness. Every conversation she and i have starts with " I think you should.." fill in the rest.
She has trouble with commitment, an gets scared when others get too close. Impatient. Has sex with men she "dates" after usually the 3rd date. Expects others to follow her and do what she wants, and when you don't she pouts and gets angry.
My therapist says she is definitely selfish, but is she also a N? Thoughts?
More odd behaviour
Hi Phoebe,
The rest of her stuff
New glasses post-N....Wow!
Ava
Ava
Thanks Briseis - I will do that
Ava
Ava
Briseis, you are scary good.
Ava
Ava
Thanks again Briseis :)
Ava
Some Advice about my friend
HELL. NO. :) To answer both
Phoebe et al.
They are everwhere
You are all so right
Hi Phoebe
PhoebeR
Hi Phoebe
Phoebe
Yes
The more i see