Anyone else having a lot of trouble with NC?
Anyone else having a lot of trouble with NC?
I feel like I’m back at square one. I opened the lines of communication last week. I needed some stuff back and sent him a message on FB. Needless to say, nothing got accomplished but a lot of arguing and more hurtful comments on his end. He spoke more freely about his OW (at first he had said that she didn’t acknowledge his existence at all… then suddenly he changed his mind and made it sound like she was madly in love with him, so who knows). He was also very disrespectful and asked me to come by for a “quickie” since she was out of town.
I didn’t give him the satisfaction of falling for his little game, and called him out on his behavior every opportunity I got. Then, as soon as the OW got back into town, he made it a point to ignore me completely. Even my messages regarding getting my stuff back—ignore. So, in a way, I’ve been d&d’d again. Wow. Never thought I’d let myself get back here again. I don’t love him or care about him anymore, but it still hurts to be given the cold shoulder all over again.
I don’t need or want my stuff. I need to get back on track and go FULL NC. I don’t think I’ve managed to get past 7 days. I always screw up. This is so hard for me, I don’t know why I need to remind him of my existence… anyone else having/had trouble with NC? Can we share some tips or comments for getting through those moments of weakness? I really can’t afford to break it again. He’s already had the last laugh enough times.
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A couple of insights that I
Believe in yourself!
Terri
May I say one more
Believe in yourself!
Terri
Thank you. I can't wait
Keeping NC takes real guts
Good way to put it- a battle
decbee
NC = anxiety
"the greatest chance of being
It happens in "Anna Karenina"
deecbee
When things are going well...
Deecbee
Dee
I love this
Marissa
Yes! Contract does = more
Yes, that's another thing to
Yep! Not worth the pot they
Deecbee, Yep, I have a hard
28 days is good!
I'm gonna tell ya dee, it
full NC
"a battle of will against
Six months... ahh I'm so
thank you
Been there done that last
You're right, there's no
I broke contact just last night
Sometimes that's necessary.