Emergency Temporary Supervised Visits?

Some cities have hotlines to get some emergency legal advice call the Bar Association and see if there is one in your area. If you know a paralegal they know a lot and are often happy to help. there are also some on-line legal advice websites. Some are free some are run by paralegals with supervising lawyers and they do charge. The courts have holiday schedules and that makes things more complicated. If your ex won't give you his address how can you let your child go with him. you don't know where it is or who lives there and that is irresponsible. You need to contact him with proof in writting that these are your concerns and that if you would permit this it could be thought of as child neglect. Ask him to arrange to see her in her home and bring her gifts, open them, and celebrate in a safe environment. Offer to leave while they have their Christmas party. Dollars to donuts if he was a no-show last year he will no-show this year and document everything. He can't force you to answer the door, turn over a child to him when he won't tell you where the child is going, and with whom. Offer to go cut the tree with them. If it is a normal event he will lose interest. then in january you can have the lawyer do some custodial visit guidelines based on his past performance and his lack of information. he has to have an address of where he lives or how could he find his way there! He would have a rental contract with the adddress, he would have to know it to put in a phone, turn on water, put on the electricity. Basically how can you place your child in the hands of a man who doesn't know where he lives. Send an e-mail to the lawyer about the no-show history and the fact that he won't tell you where he lives. then don't answer the phone or the door or go to a friend's house or with family for a few days.You can always tell the court that there were a lot of holiday functions, visits to Santa Claus, and Christmas shopping and you never got a message from him except for the one where he didn't know where he lived.

TexN, One thing I know for certain, you do NOT have to hand your child over to her non-custodial father, especially without having his actual complete address and phone number...you don't have to give your daughter to someone...and let them take her somewhere that you have no idea where she is at or how to reach her father in case of emergency. If he has been abusive to you in any way, and you have some proof of this (pics & police reports) or does NOT have shared equal joint custody with you...things are in your favor. Your daughter is very young, IF her father is to see her and spend time with her, it is absolutely important to know where she is (his address)...insist on this small amount of info. It is your legal right to know where your child is and who she is with...especially while she is a minor. And don't give in to his 'crying' manipulation. That's all it is, manipulation. I'm sure you know that. They always try the sympathy card when nothing else works...it is hallmark of their NPD. My N BF abused his 2 sons terribly this last summer, and has abused them verbally and physically evidently much of their lives (he hid this from me for a very long time, I NEVER knew or saw signs of it, he always acted like a good father, although I always wondered why his ex-wife had sole custody and he only got every other weekend visitation)... Well this year, someone finally called CPS on him. It was this summer when he was beating his sons outside in the back yard after he felt they were making too much noise in the pool. The boys were not allowed to be with him alone without supervision from then on. The process took about a month to get him before law enforcement and the court for his evaluation, but there was an immediate order that his boys be soley in the care of their mother, or his parents for visits...and he may have them on weekends now...only if I am there to supervise as I was deemed by the court to be a good role model for them, that they trusted and had a close bond with me and felt protected by me...I even put myself really 'out there' for him and also went through an evaluation/background check that I never had to do...just so I could be one of his 'supervisors' so he may see his boys outside of social services direct supervision. He has a case worker in Child Protective Services with whom he has regular appointments, and with whom I keep in close touch as they call me to ask about his visits with the boys and his behaviorIf I were not there for him, he would have to see his boys only in a social services setting for at least the next year. The CPS has more authority than even the police department with the courts. It is a very powerful dept. of law enforcement. Perhaps you can also ask for information about your rights and for their help directly. Ask you attorney about this too. Sometimes there are some small justices with these Narcissist abusive jerks. However, inspite of everything, my N boyfriend still 'pretends' he is a model father and that it was the fault of the person who called CPS on him 'wrongly'...and the police/courts/CPS/social services/etc. that 'got him into trouble'! It is amazing how he still thinks he didn't do anything to his boys that other fathers would'nt do. (yeah right all fathers beat their children with their fists until they are black and blue for making 'noise' during play in the swimming pool) Yeah THAT makes him virtually Father of The Year...in HIS mind. OMG Fortunately there are now all sorts of court documents about him...and just what a 'wonderfuful' father he REALLY is! (sarcasm)...and lucky for ME I have copies of everything (he has no idea)...especially I value the copy of the official letter from the Minister of Justice which deems him to be a "danger to the health and welfare of his children, with a potential risk to 'others' in society"...and that he has an unstable and aggressive/violent personality. He had a HUGE narcissist injury crisis for about a week after receiving this letter directly from the Minister's Office. But now he has talked himself back into his being 'such a great guy' persona...unbelievable! He truly believes he is one of the 'best' fathers 'out there'! Somehow, when he cheats again, and finds his next unknowing innocent prey...I have documented proof of what he REALLY is. I wouldn't give her a copy...but somehow just having it is a small vindication for all the damage he has done to me and anyone else who has dared to love him...or rather love the man he pretended to be. Let him D&D me! Let him say untrue destructive things about me and others when he doesn't get his way!...sometimes I feel like making copies and hanging that letter like a flag all over town... ...make that flag neon RED!!!! HA!

You really need to ask the attorney this. It varies tremendously from state to state and within - county to county... also judges exercise some decision-making on a case to case basis... so unfortunately you're going to have to wait to ask her. this might help http://www.womenslaw.org/laws_state_type.php?statelaw_name=Custody&state_code=TX Did you get her a therapist yet????????? ~~~~~~~~~ The truth will set you free... but first it will piss you off - Gloria Steinem Visit My Abuse Website