NC relapse - fell for it again
NC relapse - fell for it again
I guess with other addictions the possibility of relapse is real so why shouldn't I expect it with my relationship addiction to my ex-Narc.
My first attempt at NC lasted for 3 days. He contacted me via work email (we work together) and I responded and we all know the rest of the story. I remained somewhat guarded which made him come towards me even more. And I did fall for it again.
I accepted a "happy hour" date with him, with the insane thought that maybe he had changed. We've all done that right?? We had a wonderful time. He brought me an amazing bottle of wine for Mother's Day and said we could drink it together at our next special occasion. He said it was heartbreaking to see me now because he knew how wonderful we were. He said I was the love of his life so he just wished we could be together. When he left he said he was driving home (he lives in a different town) but how important our time was together and it was so important he wanted to get back together soon, to take our time, to go slow.
He text me that he was on the main interstate and headed home. My next text was from my babysitter who said she had just seen him at a local restaurant. Apparently he had lied, left our "date" and went to the OW to a restaurant with her friends.
I lost it. I text him telling him I knew what he had done and what an a$$ he was for doing it. I then messaged the OW on FB telling her what he was and what he had done. Not my finest moment.
She blocked me on FB so I'm sure she believed him. I haven't heard from him so know he thinks all of this was my fault. I even first felt guilty that (1) I had hurt her somehow by telling her his lies and (2) that somehow I messed something up for him. How irrational is that!
This is my "confession" of sorts so I can put that incident behind me and start NC and recovery over again. I suppose we all have relapses. Back to NC, reminding myself he will not change and this is not my fault. I can't imagine that he will reach out to me again since I exposed him to the new source.
Thank you for listening.
Relapse Update
Yeah now you see him as the
A true Narc, OMG! I can't
Hunter
rew72
Used
LOL she knows....
OMG...I am so sorry to read
Deidre40
he wants them both he loves
wacaet
If my N had made any
Responses on relapse
No need to be embarrassed.
Staying strong78
rew
you should feel pity for
You should consider yourself lucky
I think we all have reached
Hey no sweat everyone has
Who does that?!
ally2375
ITA ally his slimy azz will
We have all had relapses...now you are done!
Monica
after I got into mine's email
We all do have relapses for