Did anyone else come across a weird aversion to passionate, open-mouthed kissing in their N? I've always heard that prostitutes don't kiss, because it's the most intimate act of all, so they just won't do it. That might explain why mine never would (well, ONE time in 8 months, for about 2 seconds) - it's just too intimate for them.
On our third date we went to hear some blues and then went for late drinks. Got a taxi to mine and I asked him in for some tea. Was sitting on the couch beside him and we were talking. He wasn't making any moves whatsoever. I finally climbed onto his knee and started kissing him. However he just responded with closed, short kisses. I thought this was extremely weird and had never come across this behaviour before - most men LOVE passionate, full-on kissing in my experience. I actually asked him "Do you not want to kiss me?" He said he did, but still the same weird hesitancy continued. I joked "So what's the hold-up then?" After that he made a little more effort but it was still far short of what you would usually expect when you ask someone up for tea after a date! I had no intention of sleeping with him that night.
Later he explained that because in the past he had slept with some women "literally within minutes of meeting them" that he had wanted to take things slowly with me on the physical side, and get to know me first. I didn't like the assumption that he thought I wanted to sleep with him on that third date - I had no intention of it! I did however sleep with him on our fifth date, which comprised a weekend in the countryside with some of my other friends. Then again he was weirdly hesitant and explained that he was nervous because I was "a beautiful woman". He said that he liked the sensation of being nervous because he NEVER EVER feels nervous about anything else in his life (red flag? boredom? sense of entitlement?) I didn't think that his nervousness was weird that time though as plenty of guys are nervous the first time they have sex with you.
The no-kissing thing did weird me out though.