Push/pull dynamic
Push/pull dynamic
I've been meaning to ask this question for awhile,..... people have referred to a push/pull dynamic. What is this? Does it mean hot/cold? And then this happened today, and I'm wondering if this is push/pull. That they DD you and then come back all sweet and you are not sure why.....
Any insights on this one?
I haven't been able to completely initiate no contact. I have about 3 more weeks before I can do that. But at least he is not at the company anymore, so I don't have to see him and his eyes!
But he called and talked to me for an hour today – sweet as always; talked about how excited he was about a trip he took with his son to college and all of the neat things they did down there (engaging in personal conversation when he said he wanted none of that). It was a very fun conversation.
Said that he was concerned about me being overwhelmed and was very concerned about preserving my sanity (that the owner would never notice it so he feels that he is the only one who would protect my welfare) and he will do anything to help me with that.... Including he just refinanced his house so he could give me the $ for the business. Just signed the papers today and he can come with $ tomorrow.
We laughed a lot and it was just like normal.
What does he want with me??? Is this truly just him doing the right thing for the company and feeling that obligation (he was terminated in October and he has no fondness at all for owner so it is hard to believe this is true virtue), or maybe this is the only way he can think to make some type of amends without having me “take it the wrong way and read too much into itâ€. Or maybe he just wants to make sure he is around when there is $ so that he can conveniently ask for a bonus.
So basically, he is offering me alot of $ and it sounds like he wants to come out to work again as he was questioning my ability to get this done given the amount of work that needs to be done. So is he concerned about me as a human because he cares for me and my sanity, or does he just want to show he is a great guy and can get this deal closed, or just wants a payoff and is using me for $ in the long term (this is a big, big upside in the medium term). I can’t figure out if I am being used here or what his motivations are.
Only three more weeks until I can implement phase 2 of no contact.
But is this what people mean when they say push/pull?
Catching Him in Lies
I agree..I think mine got
Woundedsoul
Scoop
Woundedsoul
I couldn't have said this
Same here.
Wow Agnes
I cannot even imagine having
Why they do what they do
Amen! One day I realized
AMEN Better Off!!!
why
Running,...were you lured back into the relationship
foolmeonce
sociopaths
Clowns describes these guys perfectly,,,
Don't be too hard on yourself!
Phase 2?
WAKE. UP.
better off
an American girl...
better off
I still think it's worse for you...
Better OFf
help "getting it"
Funny
Your list could really just
Yep
He's got you deep in cognitive dissonance