Strange and awful presents

previous Narc before xN gave me a pencil holder with a hideous woman's face on it for Christmas

a half filled in Sudoku puzzle book and a left over burrito.

a filing cabinet...for my birthday...the day after my mother died from cancer. He was placed on the "dead to me" list right then and there. Before that, a mixed bag...black wool coat 3 sizes too large for Christmas. Valentine's Day was Dictator Day for him...if I was behaving, I'd get something...if I was not behaving, I got nada.

while still in the idealization phase: an old, dented microphone a sponge bag given to him years ago by his brother to keep the microphone in an old woolly hat of his (too big) and an old pair of his gloves (way too big, bright turquoise, worn in places and covered in motor oil), all wrapped up really carefully with ribbons and bows. He took a day off work for my birthday and asked me what I wanted to do. I said I wanted to drive to H., there was a wonderful place there which I knew he`d love. Seeing him awed and inspired was what I wanted for my birthday. He said, OK, he would drive but I must pay for the gas. They have wonderful fish restaurants in H. and I said I`d like to eat fish. We stopped at a booth and he generously donated me a bread roll with a pickled herring. And that was that.

A few flowers one Valentines day and a few birthdays - and free sports gear (I asked since he was given tons of free stuff) - that't it - oops and one romantic e-card (free) on my birthday 2010 and he then he went silent for 11 months

He bought be a mug for Christmas. Unbelievable, we had been married 11 years then. A mug for a mug Says it all really We stayed married for another year after that and then he left

He gave me an used toy :))) With stains and all...Actually I saw that toy at one of his cousin's house. 3 weeks later he gave it to me, after I complained that he never gives me presents (like normal persons do). That's all...in 4 years of pseudo-dating. Oh, I forgot..once he also gave me his half of his MacDonalds fries small-sized portion.

First Pschyco....diddly squat but sometimes got a voucher SecondNarc.......always forgot b/days, and Xmas was a no show. Third Narc...bring on the prezzies...expensive, somewhere in line with what I wanted to make up for the time he never had for me. One year during the on again period of the non-relationship, he kept forgetting to give my daughter her present, so after I booted his ass (for the second attempt) he sent her the gift 6 MONTHS after her B/Day. Hellloooo!! She made the comment "He is fucking with my head isn't he Mum?" I said Yep pretty much. She then said "So he thinks if he throws a present your way it makes everything alright?" I said Yup that is pretty much all that goes on in that head. Last Christmas (when we were still seeing each other) he mailed my daughter and I separate Xmas cards that were signed from "Narc and Family" He has 4 daughters on the other side of the country. So I HAD to ring a friend to ask her what she thought. She said "So what the F*%k is that supposed to say about you?" I thanked her for letting me know I was still on planet Earth.

I got mixed tapes galore. I now think it was brainwashing and it has ruined so much good music for me. It sucks so bad. Truly.

My EXN was horrible at gift giving. Knowing what I do now his games were all just a control thing. CRAZYMAKING. Examples- First Christmas living together we wake up and I run to surprise him with his gifts....am met with gosh I feel like a heel I had NO IDEA we would exchange gifts????? Clearly he had nothing for me which made me cry 1000 tears. I reply'd why would you think we wouldn't exchange gifts....we never spoke of it? Well I hate Christmas and my ex wife and I never exchanged gifts......UGHHHHHHH what a horrible day I remember. The remaining holidays I got LAME LAME gifts...... cutting board from Walmart that he clearly picked up on Christmas eve.......a pair of slippers........ Never once in four years got a bday present. His excuse was its your bday all year long and I'll buy you what you want whenever which was true. He bought lavish gifts/trips and the like all the time BUT THE ASSWIPE refused to do one tiny thing to make me feel special on holidays/bdays. Thinking of it now makes me puke. It was all a sick twisted game of control.

Well, mines a theif so I got plenty of Nike sweatshirts and sneakers that I DID NOT want or meed. But I have to say, we were in Victoria Secret and he bought me 3 perfume spray. I like it but guess what? HE USED IT FOR HIS CLOTHES. He walked around smelling like me. He used UP 2 OF THE 3. I put one in my car to confuse him.