Support please....
Support please....
Well, I decided two days ago to end my relationship with N. He tried to start a new business relationship with me, we met, it was a great meeting and then I pulled the plug (it was awkward) ... I just couldn't face the potential heartbreak again. So I wrote him this note. I feel better in that I feel like I am regaining my dignity; that I won't put up with Mr. Hyde. But feel sad due to the profound loss of what I thought was the closest person in my life for 20 years. Someone I could always count on to talk about whatever was bothering me, and who was actually the closet supporter when my dad was dying a few months ago. And he did support in deeds and words - taking over my job for three weeks within an hour of me calling him, and texting/calling me tons of times while i was in the hospital.
He emailed me twice right after I sent this...but im so afraid to open the emails, because I know they will be filled with hatred and rejection.
So please remind me why this was the right thing to do?? Was I wrong in thinking he is an N and is he really someone I should have tried to maintain a relationship with?
___________
N:
Today, I was just thinking about our very first conversation about this job - where I was uncomfortable with the idea....because to me - you as a person was way, way more important than you as a coworker. And I didn't want one to exclude the other. So we decided that if it got uncomfortable we should split ways quickly.... It seems we waited a bit too late, huh? This is probably the most heartbreaking thing that has happened in my life; and you know I've had my share of heartbreak, especially in the last three years. Someone who matters so much does not come around many times in a lifetime; once you find someone like that, it is best to hold on.
Well, time does heal all wounds.... I feel mostly healed, but am not ready to reopen it if there is a high probability of it happening again. I just felt like I was going to continue to want something that was never going to happen and didn't need anymore heartbreak in my life. Sorry for the abrupt halt to our new project; I hope you can understand that.
Please keep me posted on your surgery... I still like to make sure you are ok..
-LOML
PS - I wanted to talk to you about this in person, but I understand your viewpoint on that...email always runs the risk of misinterpretation - which I think has happened to us a lot. Because of your importance in my life, you have on open invite if you change your mind.
Loveofmylife
violate his boundaries, my A#&
Assassination
you see it, right
narcspeak computer program!!
No Boundaries
NO!
"I'm offended"
Bizzare?
A night at the blackjack table
You asked: Was I wrong in
OMG - help again
Are you FREAKING kidding me ??
This is EXACTLY the sort of
Ending the dance
I Second
loveofmylife....please know my thoughts and prayers are with you
I opened his emails
"so very cold. No remorse,
Oh dear!! You are such a
OMG!!! That is what you
I agree with "better off"
agnes -
Enraged
It's a weird reaction
Sadistic
He HATED my happiness
Susan32
*Opens bottle of bubbly, gets a Chicago pizza*
agnesmurphy17
Ending the dance
Loveofmylife