well known phrases

You are so arrogant You and your faggot friends You're a fag hag Click..brrr (sound of phone hanging up when I told him my Dad was critically ill and we would have to cancel our weekend break) Go to hell All women are the same I'm going to find a younger, educated women - a lawyer like me I could have had any woman at that party and you know it! She's just a friend! You never want me to have friends! You're a granny fag hags are dirty people people like you should be cursed in hell forever you are full of deceit you are possessed by satan you are evil you are too selfish to change you are damaging you are sick you are a disgrace to humanity You are evil you only have one feeling - hate and revenge and selfishness Er...I think that's enough for now and only the tip of the iceberg! Quite scary to write it all down! I think I can now officially admit that I was abused. The mystery is why an intelligent woman would stand for this for so long.

"I'm struggling with my narcissism" "I'm controlling my emotions" (explaining why he wouldn't comfort me when I was in tears) "You were inappropriate" (his constant excuse for NOT apologizing) "I don't respect students as people" (duh) "Miss A--- is seeing a therapist because she can't control her emotions" "If you're so unhappy, why don't you kill yourself?" "You're not a happy person" "She REALLY loved him" (discussing Sofia Tolstoy, who attempted suicide because her famous husband emotionally neglected her) "You are the Devil, I have to fight you" "Idiotic grin" "The Devil made you smart" "The Devil made you pretty" The ex-Psych professor thought he was BRILLIANT.

The ex-Psych professor responded with "I am a machine" when I told him how he came across as robotic. even my Narc boss and Narc grandmother are more connected/in tune with their bodies(!!!) "I don't need anybody"-to explain why his colleagues avoided him. Once, I was arguing with him and told him to say something that was NOT lifted from Tolstoy, Schopenahuer or Wittgenstein. He seemed to have not heard of interpretation.

I don't want to be your trophy husband...

Did I get an apology?...NO Dis he have any remorse?...NO BUT my puny narc did offer words of empathy and compassion...I was handed...*drumroll please... "I have to forgive myself"

My N/S POS often had this to say: "You made me THIS way." (Um riiiight. How? With my 'disorder' wand? or magical 'Crazy' dust?) "I don't need anybody." "You really think I'm ugly?" (Yep. Inside & out!) "Leave me & my issues alone." "I've got my own back." "Stop psychoanalyzing me!" "There ain't a damn thing wrong w/me!" "I'm all f*cked up!" (Ummm, but u said earlier...) "Just love me as much as I love you." "I don't talk to my family about ANYTHING!" "I feel just as you do..." (No. U r void of emotions!) "I'll keep trying (relationships) 'til I get it right." (Good luck w/that dude!) "I don't care what people think of me." (Popular one) "I don't like being rejected." (So avoid everything, right? "I can't wait until the baby is able to talk." (So she can become supply & he can teach her to tell him how much she adores him! Won't happen. We got the hell out before she could conjugate!) Whatta f*ckin' idiotic coward he is!

"Don't try to put the blame on me." "It wasn't my fault." "I did nothing wrong." "You promised me to change and you didn't. You repeat the same old patterns." "Your words mean nothing. You promise but you don't keep your promises. You do the same all the time." "If my girlfriend was....I would leave her." "I always wanted my girlfriend to..." "If you act like this I'll leave."(after I said I was sorry because he hurt me) "Sorry I answer you after such a long time but I was a little bit tired by all this situation." "Relax." "I know" (after every little compliment) "I know I messed up with your life, didn't I" "Of course, you don't believe me." "I told you we should try from the beginning, step by step but you didn't listen to me and now it's not working." "Could you please send me your proposition how to resolve our problem(can be by email), cause I would like to take a decision. We've got an unhealthy situation." "I'm soooooo pretty, I could be a model" "I'm so handsome" "You're lucky to be with a guy like me." "Did you see how she was looking at me?" "Have some mercy, I'm at work." "Break is a break, please." "I just wanted a break but you didn't accept it so I'm leaving." "Hug your doggy from me." "I know I'm a freak." many times "Maybe you would like to be with someone normal?"many tmes "You're as crazy as I am, aren't you?"maaany times "I've got the impression that our relationship is a little bit immature." "It was our x try and we didn't manage to do that and maybe we won't manage. Instead of hapinness we receive only misunderstandings." And many, many more but I can't even write it down, it makes me sick to my stomach. And what I reminded myself is a strange thing maybe and not so important but he has never called me using my name. Even once.

"Stay Stuck" "Keep it Moving" "I'm moving forward" "I don't want to get sucked into YOUR negativity" "She made me feel good about myself"...speaking about the FB bitch who lived three hours away who claimed not to have ANY knowledge of me because he lied and said he lived with his siter YET "didn't dare call" in one the texts...-sweet and a "church goer" to boot... Saw one post she wrote on her FB... "People out there, you really need to be listening because some people are in real PAIN"...oye vey.. Oh, and his message to her... "Identify and empathize because you've never walked in my shoes... Geesh, don't know if I have to shit or vomit after revisiting this...

Retort NOW: You make me want to be an expert marksman.

Omfg if I had a dime...I adore this thread!

You can never let anything go! You are insane! You need help! You think your always right. It's always me! I know I'm the best! Ppl are haters cuz they are jealous of me! I know I'm a good man! Every man leaves you! (Lie) My favorite: "I'll take care of it" That was his answer to everything. He took care of nothing. Losers! SMH! Trust, then verify~

"love me" when he felt my indifference...not I love you. Always found it odd. "I am a nice guy" after he had done something horrific. "Have a look at yourself" "I didn't tell you because you would have carried on" hmmmm lying anyone? "You provoked me" "My body is just a vessel for what I need to do" Some time after hearing this one I read Sam Vaknin quoting it literally word for word. I did literally fall off the chair and the penny began to drop big time. "There is something wrong with you" umm yeah....you. "You have issues" after living with you? No shit??? "people are jealous of me" "I am jealous of the way you think" "She cried, I don't know what that means" talking about an X. "You don't care about me" after a D&D which had to be my fault. Some of it became standard answer for any situation, designed to shut the conversation down, so often did not fit the situation. ie "you always carry on" really? about everything apparently. "I want you all to myself" gimme gimme

"I wish you or anyone could prove me wrong, even once." "No one will say anything to me that is new, I can learn from, or that I didn't already know." "Shut up (stopping me midsentence) I already know what you are going to say and why you are going to say it." "You're a bitch." "You're an idiot." "I wish someone knew and understood me." "You don't love me." "You're a cunt." "I love to be admired and adored." "I love attention." I can't go on. It's making me sad.

What about "I always tell the truth". My daughter and I told him that anyone who says this all the time shows themselves a liar. He could not get his head round that one. He really made a big deal of telling blatant truths when it would have been much kinder to tell a little white lie,he seemed to enjoy the hurt that caused. Many of the others are familiar to me, the good person one, the noone else quarrels with me only you. Another one was I love you but alas we do not get on... meaning I do not back down, standing my corner apparently made me a difficult person. the classic " I bring myself down to thier level, I have always been better, more intelligent"etc. He also used to demonstrate little memory games, giving ordinary things odd names then proving that they became those things in our recollection. At the time we thought it was a neat trick. Little did we know that this was just small hint about the massive mind games he played with us. that brings more phrases to mind He used to say " You are unstable" "You are a danger to society." "I have witnesses. I ve told everyone about you" Phew! strange how it all comes back by reading this post. So much stronger now..... will see the next one before he can ever do his worst. Red Flags. Thank goodness they cannot avoid parading them before our eyes.

and You stopped trying for us. Constantly. And the ever popular you think too much.

I don't make mistakes I don't get angry I don't get lonely (well what the FRICK were you doing on a dating site then? I wish I'd asked him that) I don't get jealous I don't need anyone I don't repeat myself

"Two things in this world I can't stand, liars and cheaters" "If you would just do what I tell you, everything would be fine. I don't know why I even waste my breath. People just need to do what I say" When discussing someone that no longer talks to him "They're just jealous, that's why I don't hear from them, they're just jealous of everything I have" I saw this on this thread but he used it sooo much "I am a God"