"Guard your heart."
This is where the problem lies for us. Still looking for approval, water if you will, from the dry well. This is what got many in the problem in the first place. Looking for approval from our dad's (a normal expectation) and the bf/husband (again, a reasonable want and hope). They didn't have it to give. Not in a way that we found comforting.
Some may have lost their Mom's or they were emotionally absentee or roller coaster in personality.
I have been there. Wanting so badly to receive the support from the men in my life. Yet it was not in the cards.
After feeling the pain and releasing it. Acceptance becomes the key. And a strong resolve to never ever put ourselves in a position to look for approval to that extent outside of ourselves again.